After launching three children and teaching parenting classes for the court system, I have come to realize this: The most valuable lessons we can teach our children might not be what we’d expect.

As parents, our first duty and desire is to protect. But as our children grow, that protecting role must always be yielding to the second role—preparing.

As parents, we should worry less about protecting them from failing, and spend more time preparing them for when they do. Maybe the most important lessons we teach our emerging adults are less instructive and more restorative.

Perhaps we need to shift our focus from ‘how to avoid mistakes’ to ‘how to handle the aftermath’. More guidance on accepting grace, for example. This side of Eternity, every error-prone child needs to hone that skill.

And lessons with so much at stake must come from someone invested in their lives.

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